Are you ready to Transform your Life?

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"Life is too short to wake up in the morning with regrets. So love the people who treat you right, forget about the ones who don't and believe that everything happens for a reason. If you get a chance, take it. If it changes your life, let it. Nobody said that it'd be easy, they just promised it would be worth it."
~ Unknown ~

I took that chance and it transformed my life. Here's how it happened...

In 1996, I was on an incredible roller-coaster ride. At the time, my life felt disjointed and unfulfilled. Something was missing. I was in a little bit of a 'funk' so to speak. Then, my dear friends Sandy and Graham came to my rescue. They invited me along to attend the Unlimited Power Weekend with none other than the famous Anthony Robbins. Without a second thought, I jumped at the chance! Finding the answers to my unsettled state were foremost on my mind.

Needless to say and as I anticipated, the answers were revealed. Anthony's teachings proved to be the catalyst for my transformation. Upon my return and without hesitation, I made several decisions that changed my life.

1. I quit my job
2. I ended a relationship
3. I packed my bags and moved to Kuala Lumpur

Radical decisions? Yes, They were. Although I would not recommend the same for some, these decisions suited my needs at the time. A word of advice ... depending on your personal circumstances and commitments, I suggest that you start by setting short term and long term goals. Make sure that you choose goals that will help you achieve the best possible outcome for your particular situation.

Life in the Fast Lane

So, in 1996 after my radical decisions, I arrived in Kuala Lumpur with two duffle bags and 50 dollars in my pocket. I had no place to stay and no job waiting for me. Elynn (my reason for this life-changing decision) picked me up from the airport and put me up in a hotel for a week. Time was of the essence. Using my rather meagre network (from my prior visit in 1993), I was able to find permanent accommodation. Pretty soon, my work permit was approved. I wasted no time in rekindling the few relationships I had built. There is a common saying and it goes like this "It is not what you know but who you know." A former client of mine was an avid Polo fan and she loved her horses. So before long, I began sharing a simple house with two of her stable boys. This arrangement suited me and pretty soon, Elynn and I began establishing our very own Personal Training business.

Not an easy beginning. Given the different lifestyle arrangements of an increasing number of our clients, a typical working day began at 6am and usually finished at 10 pm. However, the rewards and experience was worth it. What I focused on was my partnership with each client to help them achieve their fitness and health goals. I continued to live and work in Kuala Lumpur for another five years. Not only did I forge lifelong friendships but I also found my life partner. It was an incredible feeling of accomplishment when I arrived back in Sydney after spending those five years abroad. This time, my arrival was heralded with my wife by my side, a twenty foot container of personal belongings and much more than fifty dollars in my bank account! What a transformation my life had undergone!

Time for an Evaluation

Are you in a rut?

Are you unhappy with your current situation?

Do you feel disconnected or dispirited?

What's holding you back?

These were some of the questions I had to ask myself back then. Every so often, when I am faced with certain challenges, these questions resurface. Over the years, I have learnt from many mentors - Anthony Robbins, Oprah Winfrey, Dr. Wayne Dyer, Louise Hay, Chris Howard - and some great friends. Their support has sustained me.

You are a D-I-A-M-O-N-D in the Making

Here's a simple system which I have used whenever I've needed to get myself back on track. This system comes in the form of the acronym, D-I-A-M-O-N-D. Pull out your journal or a piece of paper now and write down the first thing that comes to your mind after reading each definition.

D = DECIDE that you want to change or make changes.

I = INSPIRED to Act by discovering your true desire. What is your greatest desire? Use it to inspire you to make the changes!

A = ACT. Take Action. Create practical steps to move forward towards accomplishing your goals and dreams. Your moment of power is now – The Present! As Fulton Ourster said ..."Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves – regret for the past and fear of the future."

"It is in the moment of your decision that your destiny is revealed."
~ Anthony Robbins ~

M = MOTIVATION. It is about making that commitment - choosing to discipline yourself into taking the steps necessary to achieve your dreams and aspirations, Magic Happens! The right people, resources and events will be revealed.

O = ONGOING Commitment. There will be times in your pursuit to achieve your dreams and aspirations that your will and determination will falter. Don't be afraid. Face the challenges head on. As Winston Churchill once said, "Never, never, never Give Up."

N = NETWORK. "Your network is your net worth." Ensure that you have a supportive environment. Surround yourself with people who uphold high standards. Don't allow yourself to slip into being complacent, make excuses or run away from your desires.

D = DRIVEN. Your drive to focus on what you truly want. Write out your goals. Put them in a prominent place so that you will be reminded of your vision and future.

You deserve a wonderful life. Full of success, happiness, joy and excitement. You have the ability to have great relationships, excellent health, meaningful work and financial security. I believe that we all need a system that can help us re-focus and re-balance when life or a situation gets overwhelming. Find and adopt a system that can work for you. When you apply the system and get the results, you will achieve higher levels of confidence, self-esteem, self-respect and personal pride.

And, just like me, you too will transform your life!

It is not always about Success. Sometimes we fail. I know because I have failed many times. The greatest lesson that we can learn from failure is that we can start over and try again. Just make sure you change your tactics. Albert Einstein defined insanity as doing the same thing over and over again; and expecting different results. I welcome your feedback and/or story. Be it success or failure. Please use the comment box or send me an email. Don't forget to include your permission to share it with my readers. Please be aware that all comments are moderated and may take a few days.

About the Author: Xen (The X Factor) Angelides is the founder of X-Factor Human Performance Systems. Xen Angelides is a Business Development Consultant, a proven veteran of the fitness industry, an accomplished educator and professional speaker. As a certified results coach and master practitioner of neuro linguistic programming (NLP) and neurological re-patterning, Xen has helped many individuals transform their thinking and performance. For more information, contact This e-mail address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it or like his Facebook Fan Page.

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